Relationship Changes After Baby

Honestly it has been pretty tough for me to balance out our married life with the new baby. I know its still quite early and its probably normal for the mom to be attached to the baby the first few months, but having the new baby definitely changed our relationship for both the good and the bad.

We both feel extremely blessed that Emma is now in our lives, but we definitely do miss being able to have our alone time. It's hard since I am exclusively breastfeeding now and my husband has been working quite a lot recently. I know I can pump milk and have someone watch her for a few hours, but honestly I just don't feel comfortable having someone else watch her yet.

It was upsetting my husband for a bit because I hardly took notice of him after the baby was born. It was wrong of me and I totally understand why he was feeling the way he was. Its true, I was too caught up with the baby all the time, but I do think its normal for a first time mom to do. It was just hard for me to find a balance.

I love my husband very much so I felt pretty terrible I was pushing him in the corner and only really asking him things I needed help with. So with all this going on the past two and a half months, I set aside some time to really think about how I can better our relationship now with the baby.

First, I realized how important it is for us, especially now to be in the best communicative and physical state of our relationship now we have a child together. Our baby is going to be learning by watching us so it just makes sense to continue to have an active and healthy relationship.

Second, I told myself to relax and don't stress too much about the little things having to get done right at that moment. I tend to stress and start nagging if the house isn't clean or garbage is around etc. In the beginning I'm not sure if it was the postpartum hormones, but I would ask him to help or do something in a tired and nagging way which pretty much annoyed him. I was obviously just stressed and overwhelmed about the house not being tidy and things like that. Now that I realized how wrong of me that was, I truly have been trying to be more relaxed and calm.

After working on these things for the past few weeks things have been much better between us and we have been happy learning and developing as a bigger family.

Family time watching anime :)